Gear up for Success!
Volume
2 - Issue #1 - April 25, 2003
WHO NEEDS A COACH?
WHO NEEDS A COACH?
GEAR UP FOR SUCCESS! Tips, Techniques...and Tasks
A weekly newsletter designed to support you in getting IN GEAR to create the life you want.
Volume II - Issue #1
WHO NEEDS A COACH?
April 25, 2003
Brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC. Coaching you to
get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, finding balance, accelerating
your growth, and mapping the best route to your chosen destination:
a life filled with passion and purpose!
In this Issue:
1. Welcome!
2. Related QUOTES
3. Weekly Article: Who Needs a Coach?
4. Recommended BOOKS
5. Recommeded TASKS
6. Competetive Edge GRAMMAR TIP
7. Career Transition Coaching
8. Subscription information
1. WELCOME
Welcome to Volume 2 of GEAR UP FOR SUCCESS. This begins a new series of informative, practical, inspiring newsletters to help you coach yourself to success! To read all 146 past issues of Volume 1, go to my newsletter page. Thank you to all my loyal subscribers (500 of you) and I welcome to all my new subscribers! I really appreciate your forwarding my newsletter to all your friends and colleagues as my goal is to double my subscriber list. Thank You!! Anyone can subscribe by going to my newsletter page or simply email your subscription request to laurie@ingearcoaching.com. Thank you so much for your support!
2. Related QUOTES
Masterful coaching involves empowering people to transform who they
are and reinvent themselves by helping them to see how their frames
of reference, thinking, and behavior produce unintended consequences.
— Robert Hargrove
Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to
help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional
lives. Coaches help people improves their performances and enhance the
quality of their lives. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and
to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to
elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client
is naturally creative and resourceful. The coache's job is to provide
support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client
already has.
— International Coach Federation
Coaching is unlocking a person's potential to maximize their own performance.
It is helping them learn rather than teaching them.
— Timothy Gallwey
Professional Coaching is an ongoing relationship which focuses on
the client taking action toward the realization of their vision, goals,
or desires.
—Professional and Personal Coaches Association
3. Weekly Article:
WHO NEEDS A COACH?
Q. What does an Olympic athlete have that you don't have?
a. talent ________
b. training __________
c. drive __________
d. a coach _____X_____
An athlete would never consider functioning without a coach! A coach helps him/her realize their potential. A personal coach does just that: supports clients in reaching their full potential,,,being the best they can be.
WHO NEEDS A COACH? We all do! But you must be ready for a coach - ready to take action to achieve your goals.
Are you ready for a coach? Are you coachable? (contact me..laurie@ingearcoaching.com.. for your *Coachability Assessment*)
WHAT IS A COACH? When I tell people I'm a coach - they ask "what team?" and expect me to pull out my whistle and put on my cap..I tell them that I am like a sports coach in that I support people in achieving their potential - in bringing out their best.Coaching is a new profession - it started formally in 1992 and is now the second faster growing profession in the world today! There are now over 10,000 coaches in the U.S.- and a growing number in Europe, Asia, and South America.
WHY IS THE COACHING FIELD GROWING?
*People want to find fulfillment...achieve their potential...be all that they can be. We are in a stage of human, societal, and technological development where each person has the possibility to reach his/her potential, and people want to reach it NOW, without waiting for some vague, distant future life. A high quality of life is desired and expected now.
*It's socially acceptable to use a professional/expert
*People want to feel connected; a coach provides a supportive, inspiring, caring, challenging, committed, on-going connection.
HOW IS COACHING SIMILAR/DIFFERENT?
Coaching combines the best skills of many similar professions:
like SPORTS COACHES, life coaches bring out the client's best; unlike sports coaches, coaches focus on YOU not the team.
like THERAPISTS, coaches are empathic and good listeners; (see below for differences).
like CONSULTANTS, coaches give information and share their expertise; unlike consultants, coaches let the client do the work.
like MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKERS, coaches motivate people to achieve their goals; unlike speakers, coaches interact with you.
like FRIENDS, coaches are supportive and understanding; unlike friends, coaches can be objective.
like PERSONAL TRAINERS coaches hold people accountable (coaches have been called "personal trainers for the soul!"); unlike personal trainers, coaches are work on the personal not the physical.
The uniqueness of coaching is that it combines the best of all these professions but provides much, much more.
HOW IS COACHING DIFFERENT FROM THERAPY?*
Coaching is about achievement; therapy is about healing
Coaching is about action; therapy is about understanding
Coaching is about transformation; therapy is about change
Coaching is about momentum; therapy is about safety
Coaching is about intuition; therapy is about feelings
Coaching is about performance; therapy is about progress
Coaching is about attraction; therapy is about timing
Coaching is about creating; therapy is about resolving
Coaching is about moving from functional to superior; therapy is about moving from dysfunctional to functional
Coaching is mainly done on the phone, half-hour sessions; therapy is in-person, hour-long sessions
*(for a more in-depth comparison, contact me at laurie@ingearcoaching.com)
HOW DOES COACHING WORK?
Basically, coaches support people in TAKING ACTION towards getting what they want in life; and coaches TELL THE TRUTH!
Coaching is a collaborative partnership that inspires you to achieve results beyond your wildest dreams; the synergy created from the coaching partnership can spark magical changes in your life.
Coaching is an on-going relationship which is action-oriented, goal-driven, pro-active, responsive, and based on accountability.
Also the format of coaching is very unique it is done on the phone! weekly half hour calls from 3 to 6 months or longer.
Coaching is mostly "virtual!" - our society is becoming more and more virtual as we use computers and telephone for shopping, banking, communication. As we get busier and busier, this saves us time! One of the appeals of virtual coaching is that a half hour call is a half hour - no driving to a half hour appointment that ends up being a two or three hour appointment due to the hassles of traffic and parking. You are only a telephone away from your appointment; you can even call your coach from a hammock in Tahiti!
Many coaches Specialize (they have a Niche) in helping entrepreneurs, managers/CEO's, artists, people in career/life transition, parents, new retirees, ADD and much more - other coaches Generalize: helping people identify, prioritize, choose their goals..and then take action and be accountable.
WHY DO PEOPLE HIRE A COACH?
some reasons include....
*identify and prioritize and set goals
*take action in acheiving goals
*develop a marketing strategy
*learn skills: leadership, communication, networking,building a business, computer/web, time management
*be accountable
*get life more in balance between work and home
*find passion and purpose
*have more fun
*have better relationships
*make more money
*make shifts and have breakthroughs!
*take risks for personal/professional growth
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF WORKING WITH A COACH?
You will...
*make better decisions
*take more and smarter actions
*have a more balanced life
*focus on what's important to you and eliminate tolerations that drain your energy
*have fewer problems
*find more time for fun and relaxation
*take better care of yourself: physically and emotionally and professionally
*have more sustainable energy
*develop faster and better
*build your self esteem
*learn to attract what you want into your life
*take smarter risks that lead to personal/professional growth
*feel acknowledged
*feel inspired and challenged to be your best
*have an objective, professional, caring, supportive, intuitive, honest, skilled partner
Abraham Maslow, a psychologist, who studied "normal" people (different from Freud, who studied "abnormal" people) - developed what he called a "Hierarchy of Needs" Theory - which explains that people need to satisfy certain lower level needs (physiological/safety) before they can satisfy upper level needs (social/achievement) and then reach fulfillment the top level need...what he called "self actualization".. Maslow believed only 1% of the population would reach Self Actualization - I don't believe this..do you?
Coaches help clients reach "self-actualization" - reach their own potential and find fulfillment - by helping people get their needs met.
So, are you getting your needs met? (contact me for a Needless Assessment).
Are you in balance? where are you out-of-balance? (contact me...laurie@ingearcoaching.com...for a Balance Wheel Assessment)
HOW TO FIND A COACH?
*Contact me at laurie@ingearcoaching.com for a complimentary coaching session/informational interview.
*Go to the following websites: www.coachfederation.org, www.coachu.com, www.icfne.org, www.coachville.com.
ARE YOU READY FOR A COACH?
Ask yourself...
*Are you ready to take the time to make changes in your life...and take action?
*Are you ready to invest in yourself? Do you feel you are worth the extra money invested in coaching?
*Can you commit to weekly appointments and complete your agreed-upon actions?
*Are you willing to change self-defeating behaviors?
*Are you ready to take risks?
*Are you willing to be honest with yourself and tell the truth?
*Do you feel stuck? out-of-balance? bored with life?
*Do you want more fun and passion in your life?
*Do you want more meaning/purpose in your life?
*Are you in (work/life) transition?
*Do you want to (finally) do what you have always dreamed about? (travel, create a new business, perform...?)
As more and more people find happiness and fulfillment within the coaching relationship, people won't be asking: "what's a coach?" Instead they will be asking: "who's your coach?"
Coaching is the new Profession that will help you find the life you need and want now .
So, WHO NEEDS A COACH? YOU DO!!
4. Recommended BOOKS:
If you want to know more about coaching, here are some of my favorite books
MASTERFUL COACHING - Extraordinary Results by Impacting People and the Way They Think and Work Together, by Robert Hargrove
THE PORTABLE COACH: 28 Surefire Strategies for Business and Personal Success, by Thomas Leonard
TAKE TIME for YOUR LIFE: A Personal Coach's 7-Step Program for Creating the Life You Want;
also LIFEMAKEOVERS: 52 Practical and Inspsiring Ways to Improve Your Life One Week at a Time;
and STAND UP FOR YOUR LIFE: Develop the Courage, Confidence, and Character to Fulfill Your Greatest Potential, by Cheryl Richardson
TAKE YOURSELF TO THE TOP: The Latest Trend for Executive and Entrepreneurs, by Laura Berman Fortgang
CAPTURE THE RAPTURE: How to Step Out of Your Head and Leap into Life, by Marcia Reynolds
CO-ACTIVE COACHING: New Skills for Coaching People toward Success in Work and Life, by Laura Whitmorth et al
BECOMING A COACH: The CoachU Approach, by Thomas Leonard
COACH YOURSELF TO SUCCESS WORKBOOK: Tips for Reaching Your Goals at Work and in Life, by Talane Miedaner
PROFESSIONAL FOUNDATIONS FOR MASTERFUL COACHES: Expanding the Ordinary to Achieve the Extraordinary! by Lee Smith and Jeannine Sandstrom
and by me, Laurie Geary:
RISK-TAKING and BUILDING SELF ESTEEM, my chapter in the book
A GUIDE TO GETTING IT: SELF ESTEEM. Ideas and Tools from 12 Life and Business Coaches to Help You Live Your Life's Dreams, edited by Marilyn Schwader
RISK TO GROW! CREATE the LIFE YOU WANT through RESPONSIBLE RISK-TAKING, a collection of articles, top tens, models, poems & quotes, and exercises
GAMES & INITIATIVES for NETWORKING, ENERGIZING & TEAM-BUILDING...and just plain FUN!, a booklet which includes over 75 experiential activities for trainers, learned from my years of working as
an instructor for Outward Bound Professional Development Programs.
**To order any of my books, email me (laurie@ingearcoaching.com) or go to my ordering page.**
5. Recommended TASKS:
1. Call or email me for a complimentary coaching session or to find out more about coaching.(617-494-1422) or email laurie@ingearcoaching.com.
2. Browse my website for lots more information about coaching.
or go to www.coachfederation.org, www.coachu.com, www.icfne.org, www.coachville.com.
3. Take a TELECLASS - a great way to learn about or experience coaching at a reduced (often free) rate! Go to www.teleclass.com or www.teleclassinternational.com or www.womensu.com or www.teleclass4U.com.
4. Check out all the articles about coaching at the COACHU website: www.coachu.com
5. Contact me for ASSESSMENTS that will help you: Needless (identify your needs); TruValues (identify your values); Coachability Index (check to see if you're ready for coaching); Clean Sweep or Life Wheel (identify the areas you need to be coached); MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) to identify your preferences.
6. Read any of the coaching books mentioned above.
7. Check out your local area for a meeting of a coaching organization and/or checkout community colleges for workshops/courses on coaching.
6. COMPETETIVE EDGE GRAMMAR TIP: I vs. ME
This is the biggest grammar error people make: They say "I"
when they ought to say "me."
For example, which is correct?
"I hope you will go with Sally and me." or
"I hope you will go with Sally and I."
The first sentence is correct.
How do you know which pronoun to use? The simplest way is to eliminate
the first noun (Sally) and then say the sentence. You know you would
never say "I hope you will go with 'I.'"
The grammar rule is this: Objective Case always follows a Preposition.
Objective Cases: me, him, her, them, us
Prepositions: with, between, to, for, among, into, in
Don't let incorrect grammar inadvertantly sabotage your relationships
(professional or personal)...speak correct English!
7 - CAREER OUTPLACEMENT COACHING
I have recently become a consultant for the well-known outplacement agency Lee Hecht Harrison. As a consultant/trainer, I lead two-day seminars on Career Transition Search (CTS) which includes self assessments, setting a professional objective, creating a personal marketing plan, developing a resume, networking and other job search methods, interviewing and negotiating skills, and much, much more.
I have become an experienced, knowledgeable career coach!
Anyone who finds themselves needing to transition into a new job or who wants to build a new business should contact me for a complimentary career assessment coaching session!
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