Gear up for Success!
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Issue #30 - April 28, 2000
*AWARENESS - ACTION - ACCOUNTABILITY*
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Brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed. PCC. Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with passion and purpose.
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Each week I have been elaborating on my 8-A System for building your
self esteem. <For the issue describing the whole system, as well as
back issues describing each <A>, go to my website @ www.ingearcoaching.com>
This week's newsletter deals with the three essential components for
making the 8-A System work effectively; for each <A> you must first
BECOME
AWARE - TAKE ACTION - BE ACCOUNTABLE..
Table of Contents:
1. Reader Feedback
2. Topic: AWARENESS
- ACTION - ACCOUNTABILITY
3. Related BOOKS
& RESOURCES
4. Recommended TASKS
5. Upcoming TELECLASS
and Local WORKSHOPS
6. SUBSCRIPTION
information
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434 Subscribers to date! Welcome to all of you new subscribers - especially those of you in South America! Escribame en espanol, si quieres. It's wonderful to have an international subscriber base! My goal is to reach 500 by May. So, if each of you forwarded my newsletter to one person, I could double that goal! Thank you for your support and encouragement; I really appreciate it.
READER FEEDBACK:
Hi Laurie: My Foundations class is right on with these topics of late!
Thanks for the fortuitous writing.
Donna Coulson -CCUI Teleclass Leader
Hi Laurie,
Thanks for sending me your newsletter! It's very cool to see
that our
ideas on attraction are very much aligned - probably because they come
from
the same source! I also like the format of your newsletter -
well
organized with lots of useful information.
Take care! -- Eddie Marmol, Coach
<I really appreciate Reader responses; please send in any of your comments today! Thanks>
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AWARENESS - ACTION - ACCOUNTABILITY
In order to be most effective in putting the <8-A system> to work, you must apply three <A> steps to each one of the <8 As> = First: BECOME AWARE; Second:TAKE ACTION; Third: BE ACCOUNTABLE.
STEP ONE: AWARENESS:
Before you can make any
changes in your life in order to build your self esteem, you must first
become aware: aware of what you want to change and of what you want to
keep. Are you aware of your needs? your values? your goals? your
strengths/weaknesses? blocks? stuck places? How do you become aware?
Becoming aware is a process...a
lifelong process. We become aware by being open to LEARNING....education,
training, reading, listening to tapes; we become aware by being open to
FEEDBACK;
we become aware by taking assessments or inventories or evaluations; we
become aware by dialoguing with others; we become aware by tuning
into our intuition... How else do you become aware?
A well-known model of the learning process goes like this: first we are UNCONSCIOUSLY UNCONSCIOUS (we don't know what we don't know); then, through the process of awareness, we become CONSCIOUSLY UNCONSCIOUS (now we know what we don't know); then we move on to become CONSCIOUSLY CONSCIOUS (we know what we know); finally, UNCONSCIOUSLY CONSCIOUS (we have integrated the knowledge/skill so well, it becomes part of us). This learning process continues throughout our lifetime with each new awareness.
So, how does one go from steps <1> to <2>? From UNCONSCIOUS TO CONSCIOUS? One way is through self disclosure; telling others how you feel or what you think. Sidney Jourard, psychologist, wrote <no man can come to know himself except as an outcome of disclosing himself to another person>
Two psychologists, Harry Ingham and Joseph Luft, developed a graphic model of awareness called the Johari Window <email me for a visual copy>. The Johari Window helps people see the value of self disclosure as a way to know oneself better as well as to improve interpersonal relationships.
Other ways to become more
aware:
Take courses/workshops/teleclasses/trainings... listen to tapes....read...take
an assessment, ask for feedback...trust your intuition.....or hire a coach
to help you become more aware!
What other ideas do you
have for developing awareness?
STEP TWO: ACTION
Taking action is crucial
to manifesting your awareness; action clarifies and solidifies your awareness.
Action is external; awareness is internal. Once you take action you
make a commitment to your learning and growth; it is through action that
we can best know ourselves. Action creates muscle memory... psychoneuro-conditioning....
In order to take action we often must be willing to RISK..to get
out of our comfort zone; and thus we must be willing to make mistakes and
experience failure. Without taking action we won't grow or develop.
Sometimes it works best to take action first...by taking action one becomes aware. As mentioned in a previous newsletter <Issue #25: LEARNING BY DOING>, this is the model of experiential education.
Either way you choose to go, ACTION & AWARENESS are essential elements to building self esteem. Don't stop at awareness; take action today!
Mark Twain says it well: "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
You CAN learn to take more risks...to get into action..by developing your risk muscle <see previous issues for more information on how to take risks responsibly> First you must WANT to risk by becoming more aware: take action..then find a way to BE ACCOUNTABLE for your actions>
STEP THREE: BE ACCOUNTABLE
The dictionary defines accountable
as <subject to having to report...being responsible;answerable> People
hire coaches to hold them accountable to their actions so that they can
move forward faster with their goals; people enter programs like Weight
Watchers so that they will be held accountable. You can hold yourself
accountable...how will you do that? Keep a journal? keep a checklist?
set deadlines? make a commitment to a friend or a colleague? Being
held accountable for your actions will accelerate your growth in building
your self esteem!
<For a visual wheel of the 8 A+ Actions for Building Self Esteem email me at laurie@ingearcoaching.com>
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Recommended BOOKS & RESOURCES:
<VALUES CLARIFICATION> by Sidney Simon, et al
also by Sid Simon:
<GETTING
UNSTUCK: Breaking Through Barriers for Change>
<CHANGING FOR GOOD> by James Prochaska, et al
<RISKING>by David Viscott
<ASSESSMENTS> Contact me if you are interested in taking an assessment on identifying your needs, clarifying your values, determining your personal foundation or level of attraction or your coachability, identifying your personality type with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.
<TAPES: <HOW TO BUILD HIGH SELF ESTEEM> by Jack Canfield
Nightingale-Conant Corporation, 1-800-323-5552
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TASKS =
1. READ one of the books mentioned above; READ back issues of my newsletter on the 8 A's of Building Self Esteem....to be found at my website www.ingearcoacing.com. For a visual model of my <8 A-System for Building Self Esteem>, email me at laurie@ingearcoaching.com.
2. Take an ASSESSMENT: email me for the assesment of your choice and to arrange for a complimentary coaching session to interpret it.
3. Register for my TELECLASS - this Monday! - on RISK-TAKING <see below> Individual or group teleclasses related to responsible risk-taking or self esteem development can be arranged.
4 . Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to
support you in becoming more aware, taking action, and being accountable.
Voice: 617-494-1422;
email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
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Upcoming TELECLASS:
<LEARN
the 3-STEP MODEL for TAKING RESPONSIBLE RISKS in order to GET UNSTUCK/MAKE
BREAKTHROUGHS to CREATE the LIFE YOU WANT>
4 Mondays, May 1, 8, 15, 22 @ 2-3pm EST - Fee: $99
For a more detailed description of my teleclass, or to register, go to http://www.teleclasscanada.com or http://www.teleclass.com.
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<UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS>:
BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
Boston Center for Adult Education
Monday, June 12, 2000; 6:30-9:30 p.m.
also Monday, July 24, 2000; 6:30-9:30
BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM: THE 8 A-SYSTEM
and BUILDING YOUR TEAM - May 17, 2000
*Wellesley Public Library, Wellesley, MA - 9 - 4 p.m.
MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE INDICATOR Training: Beverly Hospital
Wednesday, June 14, 2000
private workshop
ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Wednesday, June 7th from 6:30-9:30pm
TEAM-BUILDING & NETWORKING: Games and Inititatives for Learning
ICF Conference, Balance Program, Vancouver, BC
October 27, 2000
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UPCOMING CONCERT! - GRAND ANNOUNCEMENT!
My son, Derek Geary, will be in concert playing his original piano compositions,
at Deerfield Academy, on Tuesday, May 16th, at 7 p.m. - Tapes available
upon request. Information about Derek can be found at his website http://www.derekgeary.com
or link from my website.
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