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Issue #29 - April 22, 2000 - ATTRACTION: A+ Action #5
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Brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., Coaching you to get your life
IN GEAR by making shifts, getting unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping the best route to your chosen destination: a perfect life.

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Each week I have been elaborating on my 8-A System for building your self esteem. For the issue describing the whole system, as well as back issues describing each A, go to my website @  http://www.ingearcoaching.com
 

This week's newsletter deals with ATTRACTION and its importance to your self esteem.
 

TABLE of CONTENTS:
        *READER FEEDBACK
        *Topic: ATTRACTION
        *Related BOOKS & RESOURCES
        *Recommended TASKS
        *Upcoming TELECLASSES & Local WORKSHOPS
        *SUBSCRIPTION information
 

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FEEDBACK from a READER:
Wow! My awareness was really raised when I did the exercise you recommended
in last week's issue on Attitude.   I really learned that my attitude and thus my reactions are MY choice! thank you...  anonymous
 

*I really appreciate Reader reponses; please send in your comments today! Thanks.
 

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ATTRACTION - A+ ACTION #5 for BUILDING your SELF ESTEEM:
        Becoming Attractive is essential in building your self esteem.  Attraction is not
about your looks, but rather your ability to attract abundance into your life - whether in the form of success at work, solid and rewarding relationships, and richer life satisfaction. Attraction means being whole and present so that you effortlessly draw into your life what you want rather than having to sell or promote yourself. Attraction means having a strong personal foundation.  Attraction is a skill that you can develop...you learn how to become a human magnet.  Many people* have written about how to become Attractive... below are my top tens for becoming Attractive in order to build your self esteem.
 

TOP TEN WAYS to
BECOME ATTRACTIVE to
BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM:
        "copyright 2000 all rights reserved Laurie Geary"
 

1. SELF CARE: Become physically fit & healthy: do aerobic and stretching exercise regularly, eat nutritiously and in moderation; keep your weight down; have regular medical and dental check-ups; develop your personal foundation.

2. BE a LIFE-LONG LEARNER: Read, take courses, learn new skills; attend cultural events, concerts, films; travel, learn another language; always be open to new information and education; take responsible risks and grow.

3. BE YOURSELF: Be who you are: unique & independent. Accept yourself; Be confident; Be self aware: know what you want and need; Develop your talents and skills and strengths; Be Real; Be Selfish (not self-centered)! Fill up your own cup so that you can then fill others.

4. BE EMPATHIC:  Recognize emotions in others so that you know what others need and want.  Have a strong emotional intelligence: the ability to express your feelings as well as identify others' feelings.  One's EQ rather than one's IQ has been found to be a better predictor of success in life.

5. SURROUND YOURSELF with other ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE and an ATTRACTIVE ENVIRONMENT: Your associations have a strong impact upon you - they influence who you are and how you feel  about yourself. Attractive people are your role models; learn from them.  Choose your friendships carefully; surround yourself with people who value you and nurture you and who bring out your best...people who support you in being attractive!  Avoid toxic people! Create an environment at home and at work that nourishes you and inspires you; eliminate clutter and reduce tolerations*.

6. BE PRESENT: The present moment is really all we have. Don't waste time obsessing about the PAST, because there is nothing you can do about it; Don't waste time worrying about the FUTURE, it is out of reach.  Focus on the PRESENT and make the most of it; someone who is totally present with you is VERY attractive.

7. RESPONSIVE and  RESPONSIBILITY: People who respond immediately to requests and who take responsibility for their behaviors are very attractive.  They can be depended upon...you know when they say they are going to do something, they do it; they honor their commitments; they will not blame you for anything.
"Under Promise and Over Deliver" is an attractive principle because people are surprised and delighted with the unexpected response they get from you.

8. BE HONEST: Speak the truth; always act with integrity. Be willing to be open and congruent with your feelings and thoughts.

9. BE GENEROUS: Give to others - time, attention, money, loving, kindness. Give without any expectation of getting back/of reciprocity; give people what they want/need not what you like. Practice Random Acts of Kindness. Trust that what goes around, comes around.

10. GET YOUR NEEDS MET - LIVE BY YOUR VALUES: Only we can satisfy our needs - but first we have to know what our needs are.  Needs are things that bring us satisfaction; needs are what we must have to be our best: money, food, love, information, exercise, etc.  Values are the things that are most important to us: beauty, creativity, freedom, etc. Values come from within and are what we live for. To be attractive we must live congruently with our values and satisfy our needs.

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Recommended BOOKS & RESOURCES:

THE PORTABLE COACH, by *Thomas Leonard: Read, in depth, about his 28 principles of Attraction and how to incorporate them into your life in order to become Attractive. Also, go to http://www.teleclass.com  or email: class@theportablecoach.com to find teleclasses scheduled monthly on developing these principles of Attraction.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, by Daniel Goleman: Learn more about emotional intelligence and why it is so much more important than IQ in determining life success.

COACH YOURSELF to SUCCESS Workbook by *Talane Miedaner:
Use this very practical workbook to develop your attraction growth process.
also from Talane: an audio cassette: "Irresistible Attraction: A Way of Life"
http://www.lifecoach.com or email: talane@lifecoach.com
 

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TASKS =
 

1. READ one of the books mentioned above.

2. Take an ASSESSMENT on determining your Irresistible Attraction, building your Personal Foundation, Determining your Needs, or Clarifying your Values. (email me for a copy of one of these assessments and to arrange a complimentary coaching session to interpret your assessment)

3. Register for my TELECLASS on building your self esteem through the 8 A -System: Learn how to become more Attractive. Go to http://www.teleclasscanda.com to register (see below)

4. Take a TELECLASS on Becoming Attractive or Developing your Personal Foundation or Reducing Clutter. See http://www.coachu.com or http://www.teleclass.com or http://www.teleclasscanada.com

5. Check out Attraction University

6 . Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to support you in becoming more attractive today.
Voice: 617-494-1422
Email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

7.  Contact me to receive an article about reducing tolerations* in your life.
 

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Upcoming TELECLASSES:

LEARN the 8 A'S - A SYSTEM for BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM
 2 Tuesdays, April 25, May 2 @ 9-10 pm EST - Fee: $49

LEARN the 3-STEP MODEL for TAKING RESPONSIBLE RISKS in order to GET UNSTUCK/MAKE BREAKTHROUGHS  to CREATE the LIFE YOU WANT
4 Mondays, May 1, 8, 15, 22 @ 2-3pm EST  - Fee: $99
 

For a more detailed description of each teleclass or to register, go to http://www.teleclasscanada.com
You may also find these teleclasses listed at http://www.teleclass.com
 

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UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:
 

BECOMING A PERSONAL/PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
April 24 & May 1,  also Monday, June 12,  @ 6:30-9:30 p.m.
*Middlesex Community College -  Saturday, April 29, 9 - 4 p.m.

BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM: THE 8 A-SYSTEM
and BUILDING YOUR TEAM - May 17, 2000
*Wellesley Public Library, Wellesley, MA - 9 - 4 p.m.

ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Wednesday, June 7th from 6:30-9:30pm
 

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