Issue #54 - October 19, 2000 <<On Turning 80>>

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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.

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Table of Contents:

        1. Topic: <<On TURNING 80 - TOP TEN RECOMMENDATIONS FOR LIFE>>
        2. Recommended READING
        3  Recommended TASKS
        4. Upcoming TELEGROUP and Local WORKSHOPS
        5. SUBSCRIPTION information

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TOPIC:
Last week I wrote about attending my family reunion which was also meant to celebrate my mother's 80th birthday.  I asked her to tell me what it's like to be 80 years old...she sent me the following:

On TURNING 80 - TOP TEN RECOMMENDATIONS to LIVE A GOOD LIFE
What I Did and Wish I'd Done More.....
                by Rhoda Riddell (gaby1028@aol.com)

1.  Invest something every month. The old idea of tithing is a good one but
also put aside even a small amount...buy land, buy art, buy stocks, maybe a
little of each. Diversify. Be creative.

2. Create something every month or more, even if it is a new recipe.
Exercise your creative skills. The best creation is a laugh a day..make someone else laugh each day.

3. Find something that you nourish every day....think garden, pet, friendship,
family. And, nourish yourself every day too!!

4. Speak or teach something every month. If you can't think of anything to
speak about or teach, research that...we can all teach something. Find something fun,
whether it's bridge or whittling or a different language. If speaking or teaching daunts you,
 join Toastmasters or an improvisation group, or tutor kids.

5. Write in a journal every day. Keep several journals: count your blessings, record your thoughts/ideas;
keep a reading journal and/or a movie journal; keep a five year diary, a travel diary; record your activities/accomplishments;
Write letters; keep copies.
Remember the Red King who said, "I'll never forget this moment!" The Red Queen said "Yes you will. Make a note of it."

6. Travel every week or month or year... short, long and longer.. back yard,
downtown, the world!

7. Read something every day...fiction/non-fiction: magazines/books/newspapers/journals..

8. Learn something new every day. be a lifelong learner.  Learn yoga, woodworking,
transactional analysis, Buddhism. You need to feed all of your needs...physical, mental, emotional, spirtual.

9. Become an expert at something!

10. Find your passion.... what you want to live for, what gives your life zest.

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<IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER I'd dare to make more mistakes next time.  I'd relax, I would limber up.  I would be sillier than I have been this trip.  I would take fewer things seriously.  I would take more chances.  I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers.  I would eat more ice cream and less beans.  I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I'd have fewer imaginary ones.
        You see, I'm one of those people who live sensible and sanely hour after  hour, day after day.  Oh, I've had my moments, and if I had it to do over again, I'd have more of them.  In fact, I'd try to have nothing else.  Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day.  I've been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute.  If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
        If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall.  I would go to more dances.  I would ride more merry-go-rounds.  I would pick more daisies>.

by Nadine Stair (80 years young)

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Recommended TASKS:

1.  Imagine yourself at 80, looking back on your life: how will you feel? what regrets
will you have? what will you  be proud of? what will you have accomplished? Make a
plan to create the life you will have lived  and start NOW!

2. Talk to people in their 80's - ask them what makes a good life? What are their top ten
recommendations for a happy life? ...

3. Read books by people who have had successful lives...who write about aging gracefully
and passionately. (see below)

4. Register for my upcoming  teleclass and build your self esteem with the Awesome 8-A System
        or a workshop on  <Taking Risks> or <Attracting What you Want in your Life> <Building Your Self Esteem> (see below)

5. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter related to building your self esteem.

6. Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to help you create the life you want to be pleased with when you turn 80!
Voice:617-494-1422;  email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

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Recommended BOOKS:

AT EIGHTY-TWO: A JOURNAL, by May Sarton
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/039331622x/gearupforsuccela

THE LAST GIFT OF TIME: LIFE BEYOND SIXTY, by Carolyn Heilbrun
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0345422953/gearupforsuccela

DAVE BARRY TURNS 50, by Dave Barry
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0345431693/gearupforsuccela

BE AN OUTRAGEOUS OLDER WOMAN, by Ruth Harriet Jacobs
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1-879198-23-1/gearupforsuccela

RED HOT MAMAS: COMING INTO OUR OWN AT FIFTY, by Collette Cowling
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0-553-09059-3/gearupforsuccela

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 TELECLASS: BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM using the 8-A SYSTEM***

*Develop your A+ Attributes to Attract what you want in your life.
*Become more Aware of your needs and wants.
*Be Accountable for your Actions
*Acknowledge and Accept yourself and others using skills that work.
*Become more Assertive: Ask for what you want; Avoid what you don't want;
Act now! Take Actions to Accelerate your growth...move forward faster in your self esteem development and learn how to Activate the 8 A's of Building Your Self Esteem.
***e-Handouts provided per session to supplement self esteem topics

Session Dates:

Free Introductory session: Thursday, November 2 @ 9pm EST
Take a self esteem assessment; get an overview of the 8 A's; determine if a small coaching telegroup will support you in building your self esteem.
 Also Announcing a Coaching Telegroup (limited to 8 participants): Thursdays @ 9pm EST - November 9-16-30-December 7
Cost: $179

please note: if these dates/times are inconvenient for you, contact Laurie to arrange a coaching telegroup for you and your colleagues/friends.

To Register: Go to www.teleclassinternational.com or www.teleclass.com

For more information, contact Laurie Geary @ (617)494-1422 or email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
or see her website @www.ingearcoaching.com

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UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:

BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
 Monday, November 13, 2000 - 6:30-9:30 p.m.
also, Thursday, January 18, 2001
*NSCC, Wednesday, February 28th, 9-3 p.m.

MBTI - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (private)
*Beverly Hospital - November 2, 2000

RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*BCAE -6:30-9:30 pm.- Thursday, January 25, 2001
*NSCC: Wednesday, February 21, 2001, 9-3pm

BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM WITH THE 8-A SYSTEM
NSCC: Wednesday, April 4, 2001, 9-3pm

ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Saturday, February 24th from 9 to 4 pm

GAMES AND INITIATIVES FOR LEARNING
*ICF Conference, Balance Program, Vancouver, BC
October 27, 2000
also
* RANCHO LA PUERTA SPA, Tecate, Mexico
December 16-22, 2000

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