Issue #51 - September 25, 2000 <<Adversity Quotient>>

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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.

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Table of Contents:

        1. READER FEEDBACK
        1. Topic: <<BUILD YOUR AQ: ADVERSITY QUOTIENT>>
        2  Recommended TASKS
        3. Recommended READING and RESOURCES
        4. Upcoming TELECLASSES, a TELEGROUP and Local WORKSHOPS
        5. SUBSCRIPTION information

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READER FEEDBACK:

<Congrats once more, Laurie....You did a great job of presenting the information in a concise understandable way - what a great service for your readers.>
Pete

<Your newsletters have been fantastic.  What a terrific accomplishment, Laurie.
 It must take considerable time to put them together.  And you never seem to
run out of  new information> J.B.
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Topic:          BUILD YOUR ADVERSITY QUOTIENT (AQ)

        Last week's issue dealt with the importance of developing one's EQ, or Emotional Intelligence, as a better indicator for life success the traditional indicator: IQ..  Success can be defined as the degree to which one moves forward and upward, progressing to achieve fulfillment and happiness in one's lifetime.  But why do some people succeed and others fail?  Daniel Goleman, in his book on <Emotional Intelligence> shows that IQ, or Intelligence Quotient, hasn't proved to be the best measure of success.  He convinces us that EQ is more important than IQ in predicting personal or professional success in life, yet not everyone takes full advantage of their emotional intelligence.  Remember, EQ reflects your ability to empathize with others, postpone gratification, control your impulses, be self-aware, persist, and interact effectively with others.
        Now Paul Stoltz, author of <Adversity Quotient> states that neither IQ nor EQ appear to determine one's success...both play a role..but it is how one deals with adversity (AQ) that is the best predictor of success in life.
 
What is AQ-Adversity Quotient? According to Stoltz:

*AQ tells you how well you withstand adversity and your ability to surmount it.
*AQ predicts who will overcome adversity and who will be crushed by it.
*AQ predicts who will exceed expectations of their performance and  potential   and who will fall short.
*AQ predicts who will give up and who prevails.

        It seems that adversity builds character...a hardiness or an inner strength that we can draw upon to become our best.  Dealing with adversity is like developing  a risk muscle that becomes stronger the more it is used.  John Gray states: "All adversity is really an opportunity for our souls to grow".  Adversity is an opportunity...or an "Advertunity".  One's response to adversity influences all facets of effectiveness, performance, and success.  Researchers in the new science of psychoneuroimmunology have found a direct link between how you respond to adversity and your mental and physical health.
        People with high AQ welcome change...they take risks....and  learn from their mistakes..they take responsibility for their own behaviors and have high accountability..they are action-oriented..upbeat..take control of their life..they have the habit of making the best of a bad situation.
Stoltz identified three types of people: Quitters, Campers, and Climbers...Climbers have high AQ..they are dedicated to a lifelong ascent; they face of adversity in their continual pursuit of happiness.  Quitters choose to opt out, back out, drop out...adversity stops them in their tracks and they give up..not willing to face the pain and discomfort.   Campers go only so far, then opt for comfort....eventually feeling bored and dissatisfied, yet not willing to make the effort to continue to climb for success because it means continuing to deal with the discomforts and unknowns of adversity.

        What personality type are you: a Quitter? a Camper? or a Climber?

        What is your AQ?  You can determine it by taking an assessment of your 
        AQ - the Adversity Response Profile - in Stoltz's book.

        How can you develop your AQ?

TOP TEN WAYS TO DEVELOP YOUR AQ - ADVERSITY QUOTIENT:

1.  Consistently articulate an uplifting, inspirational, and optimistic VISION of your life.  What does success mean to you?  How will you get there?  Who will support you in achieving your success? building your AQ? Be specific and detailed...Create a picture of your ideal life....draw it, write it down, verbalize it to others..make it as real as you can - Create a self-fulfilling prophecy of success.

2.BE CREATIVE - Think "outside the box"  - always ask: "How does this adversity create opportunity for me?"

3. TAKE RISKS! (see past issues of my newsletter for many articles on Risk-taking for personal growth).

4. Surround yourself with other CLIMBERS - Find role models/mentors and people to support you in your climb.   Point out and celebrate high AQ success stories.

5.  HIRE A COACH to support you in developing and strengthening your AQ.

6. Eliminate OBSTACLES to your success such as negative self talk, negative people, lack of opportunity to develop AQ.

7. REWARD yourself for taking chances and  risks...for moving forward and climbing.  Consistently acknowledge your success..daily, weekly, monthly.

8. See failure as success; REFRAME past struggles into success stories.

9. Be a LIFELONG LEARNER...ever-committed to continuous improvement...be a climber!

10. Instill lots of HUMOR in your daily life...laugh and enjoy having the opportunity to grow and climb and be successful.

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Recommended READING and RESOURCES:

<ADVERSITY QUOTIENT: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities> by Paul Stoltz,
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0-471-17892-6/gearupforsuccela

PEAK LEARNING, Inc. - Dr. Paul Stoltz
Four Hundred North Skyview, Flagstaff, AZ 86004
1(800)255-5572 or fax (520)526-3160.

<EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Why It Can Matter More than IQ>, by Daniel Goleman
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0-553-09503-x/gearupforsuccela

<WORKING WITH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE>, by Daniel Goleman
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0-553-10462-4/gearupforsuccela

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Recommended TASKS:

1. Register for my upcoming  teleclass and build your self esteem ...emotional intelligence...and adversity quotient.... with the Awesome 8-A System

2.  Follow the TOP TEN WAYS TO BUILD YOUR AQ and start climbing!

3. Take your ADVERSITY RESPONSE PROFILE to determine your level of AQ (see Stoltz-Peak Learning) or read one of the books mentioned above.

4. Register for a workshop on <Building your Self Esteem> or <Taking Risks> or <Attracting What you Want in your Life> (see below)

3. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter related to building your self esteem.

4. Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to build your AQ!
Voice:617-494-1422;  email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

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 TELECLASS: BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM using the 8-A SYSTEM***

*Develop your A+ Attributes to Attract what you want in your life.
*Become more Aware of your needs and wants.
*Be Accountable for your Actions
*Acknowledge and Accept yourself and others using skills that work.
*Become more Assertive: Ask for what you want; Avoid what you don't want;

Act now! Take Actions to Accelerate your growth...move forward faster in your self esteem development and learn how to Activate the 8 A's of Building Your Self Esteem.

*e-Handouts provided per session to supplement self esteem topics

Session Dates:

Free Introductory sessions: Thursday, September 28, October 5, November 2 @ 9pm EST

Take a self esteem assessment; get an overview of the 8 A's; determine if a small coaching telegroup will support you in building your self esteem.

 Also Announcing a Coaching Telegroup (limited to 8 participants): Thursdays @ 9pm EST -

November 9-16-30-December 7
Cost: $179

please note: if these dates/times are inconvenient for you, contact Laurie to arrange a coaching telegroup for you and your colleagues/friends.

To Register: Go to www.teleclassinternational.com or www.teleclass.com

For more information, contact Laurie Geary @ (617)494-1422 or email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
or see her website @www.ingearcoaching.com

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NOTE: Telecourses are classes that are delivered via the telephone
(a virtual classroom). It is an new cutting-edge approach to
learning.

Participants experience the following benefits:

- convenience (you may call from your home, office, hotel...)
- no commute or travel time
- practice and support working the concepts and tools
- interactive and fun!

Companies experience the following benefits:

- participants do not leave the work site, thus saving
cost of time away from work, travel time, external
seminar expenses.
- reduced cost of the offering without sacrificing
quality courses for employees.
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UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:

BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH

*Boston Center for Adult Education
 Monday, November 13, 2000 - 6:30-9:30 p.m.
also, Thursday, January 18, 2001
and
*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, September 27th from 9-3 pm

MBTI - Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (private)
*Beverly Hospital - November 2, 2000
and
*Hanson Insurance Agency - September 29,2000

RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH

*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 4th from 9-3 pm
also
*BCAE - Monday, October 16  from 6:30-9:30 pm.
and Thursday, January 25, 2001.

BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM with the 8 A+ SYSTEM

North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 11th from 9-3 pm

ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE

*Middlesex Community College - Saturday, October 14th from 9 to 4 pm
 

GAMES AND INITIATIVES FOR LEARNING

*ICF Conference, Balance Program, Vancouver, BC
October 27, 2000

* RANCHO LA PUERTA SPA, Tecate, Mexico
December 16-22, 2000

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