Issue #48 - September 3, 2000 <<A Self Esteem Assessment>>

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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.

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Table of Contents:
 1. Reader FEEDBACK 
 2. Topic: <<A SELF ESTEEM ASSESSMENT>>
 3. Recommended READING & RESOURCES
 4. Recommended TASKS
 5. Upcoming TELEGROUP and Local WORKSHOPS 
 6. SUBSCRIPTION information

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Reader FEEDBACK: I really appreciate all the responses I am getting from my readers!

<Enjoyed your issue (#47 on Making a Difference). A favorite quote in the same vein is:
I long to accomplish great and noble deeds but I know the task is to do small 
deeds as if they were great and noble. Helen Keller
One of the hardest things for me to learn has been to do the task that is 
before me with grace rather than judging whether it is "worthy" enough. That 
IS the great mystery; we can never know the real effect of our acts; our 
simplest act might make the biggest difference, one we may never know, 
impacting far beyond our more glorious efforts. 
Your newsletter always holds special  treats and I enjoy it. This fall I am leaving for Nepal, Tibet, and 
Thailand--I attribute my "going for it" on my GREAT ADVENTURE partly to your 
"risk" teleclass when I first connected with you, so you never know what 
fruit your seeds will yield--THANKS!)> 
Judy G. 

<Laurie – This was a really special issue (#46 on ASKING) – thanks for the inspiration!> Mary Beth

<good one. Should point out that you made a big difference in my life and 
those that I have touched in suggesting/persuading me to go for my Master's 
in Cambridge. That led to second one at SDSU, and Ph.D. and teaching, etc.>  
gaby

<Laurie,
Loved your newsletter! I'll forward it to some friends>...
Jim 

<Laurie
Nice newsletter! Really great read>.
Rinatta

<Hi Laurie-- 
Thanks for yet another perfectly-timed newsletter! Very inspiring and 
uplifting! I am looking for ways to be a superhero in my everyday life. 
Thanks! >
Margie

<Hi Laurie,
A good newsletter, but I just want to say one thing. The hundredth monkey story is just a myth.
There is NO scientific record about it. The story was actually invented, as far as I know,
in the US in 70's to support paranormal claims.  The washing behavior among the monkeys
had never jumped the sea; but was transferred by scientists. Also the older monkeys had never learnt
to wash potatoes.  Skeptical Inquire magazine (not National inquire!) studied about this story;
and found, if I remember correctly, no one who used this story ever read the original study
published in Japan. This story was never told in Japan, at least when I lived in Japan.
I saw TV program about it when I was a child, but it did not mention about the habit jumping
   over the sea. If you see this type of story, please check the original literature>.
Takashi (PhD, Astrophysicist)

<One of the things Julia Butterfly Hill said in a lecture she gave a UT last semester is (this is not a complete - direct quote - but it was something like this) "when we get upset or angry about an issue, an injustice, instead of blamming or laying the guilt on someone else - JBH said when she was up in the tree she found herself pointing her fingers at the loggers - the lumber company staff - this was all their fault - what she realized over time was everytime we point our fingers at someone there are three fingers pointing back at us. (try it point your finger at something - your 2nd, 3rd, and 4th finger are pointing at you) There are always three things we can do to make a difference - instead of placing the blame on everyone else." - JBH
I like to say -  "Be pro-active and  - don't get mad, get busy." -
Be a superhero (we are all superheroes.)>
Kristen Woolf
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Topic:

 How is your Self Esteem? There are many self esteem evaluations/assessments available on the web or in books in order to help you determine your self esteem level.  Here is my version:

A SELF ESTEEM ASSESSMENT:
 copyright 2000, all rights reserved: Laurie R. Geary, M.Ed.

Score as follows:

1 - Not True
2 - Somewhat True
3 - True
4 - Very True

Score  Self Esteem Statements

________ 1. I know what my true values are and I live by my values (see TruValues* Assessment)

________ 2.  I am clear about my needs and wants (see Needless* Assessment).

________ 3.  I am not afraid to speak up for what I want.

________ 4.  I am able to set my personal boundaries.

________ 5.  I am able to confront unacceptable behavior.

________ 6.  I can ask for what I want (see newsletter issue #46).

________ 7.  I am able to say NO to unreasonable requests.

________ 8.  I am able to say NO to unnecessary activities.

________ 9.  I do not need approval from others.

________ 10.  I make decisions easily and don't <second guess> them.

________ 11.  I am willing to accept the consequences of my behaviors.

________ 12.  I take responsibility for my actions..

________ 13.  I  recognize and acknowledge my achievements and talents.

________ 14.  I accept my mistakes or failures.

________ 15.  I am not judgmental and critical of others.

________ 16.  I am assertive. (see newsletter issue #23)

________ 17.  I  take risks for personal growth.(see newsletter issue #15)

________ 18.  I can deal with rejection.

________ 19.  I do not expect to be perfect in whatever I do.

________ 20.  I have a strong support system.(see newsletter issue #4)

________ 21.  I accept myself for whom I am.(see newsletter issue #31)

________ 22.  I can accept compliments with grace.

________ 23. I feel confident in myself  most of the time.

________ 24. My self talk is mostly positive and esteem-building.

________ 25. I am a lifelong learner.

________ 26.  I can say I am  happy with myself and my life.

________ 27.  My relationships are positive and supportive.

________ 28.  I live a toleration-free life.(my website for article on Tolerations)

________ 29.  I am living by the 28 Principles of Attraction (see THE PORTABLE COACH*)

________ 30.  I exercise aerobically on a regular basis.

________ 31. I eat nutritious food daily.

________ 32. I take regular vacations.

________ 33. I know how to relax...and do so when needed.

_________ 34. I get plenty of sleep.

_________ 35. I take time for myself whenever necessary.

_________ 36.  I have someone I can turn to in times of stress.

_________ 37.  I allot enough time for fun and play in my life.

_________ 38.  I am generous towards others.

_________ 39.  I contribute to my community.

_________ 40.  I have a strong spiritual nature.
 

__________  Your Self Esteem Index (sum of all scores)

To find your self esteem Index, simply add up the scores of all of your statements.  The higher your score, the higher your self esteem. <highest possible score is 160) 
What do you need to do to raise your score? Sign up for my complimentary teleclass this week on Building Your Self Esteem with the 8-A System (see below)

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Recommended READING and RESOURCES:

<*THE PORTABLE COACH> by Thomas Leonard
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/0-684-85041-9/gearupforsuccela

<TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE> by Cheryl Richardson
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/0-7679-0206-8/gearupforsuccela

<TAKE YOURSELF TO THE TOP> by Laura Berman Fortgang,
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/0-446-67377-3/gearupforsuccela

<SOMETHING MORE: EXCAVATING YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF>by Sara Ban Breathnach
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/0-446-52413-1/gearupforsuccela

<BE YOUR BEST> by Linda Adams
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/0-87223-553-x/gearupforsuccela

*for other assessments related to self esteem: TruValues, Needless, Personal Foundation, Personal Attraction, go to www.coachu.com or contact me.
also check out the following great website: www.parinc.com (Psychological Assessment Resources)
for an in-depth self esteem assessment...which is available from me also.
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Recommended TASKS:

1. Register for the coaching telegroup and build your self esteem with the 8-A System

2.  Read one of the great books mentioned above.

3. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter related to building your self esteem. 

4. Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to interpret your self esteem assessment. Voice:617-494-1422;  email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

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 <UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS and TELECLASSES>

ANNOUNCING:
 ***A COACHING TELEGROUP - to BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM using the 8-A SYSTEM***

 This fall I am offering a weekly group coaching teleclass to focus on <Building Your Self Esteem through the Awesome 8-A System>
.Each session will focus on one of the 8 A's of Self Esteem Development*...a unique, inspiring and practical process for positive change. 

Topics to focus on:
*Developing your A+ Attributes to Attract what you want in your life. 
*Becoming more Aware of your needs and wants. 
*Being Accountable for your Actions
*Acknowledging and Accepting yourself and others using skills that work. 
*Becoming more Assertive: Asking for what you want; Avoiding what you don't want; 

Act now! Take Actions to Accelerate your growth...move forward faster in your self esteem development and learn how to 
Activate the 8 A's of Building Your Self Esteem.

*an e-Workbook on the 8-A System for Building Self Esteem provided.
*e-Handouts provided per session to supplement self esteem topics

*The telegroup format provides affordable coaching for the client who chooses group coaching over individual coaching. 
Telegroup limited to 8 participants. 

Session Dates: 
Free Introductory sessions: Thursday, Sept. 7 @ 9pm EST also Thursday, November 2 @ 9pm EST
Take a self esteem assessment; get an overview of the 8 A's; determine if the telegroup will support you in building your self esteem.
 
Phase 1: Thursdays @ 9pm EST - Sept 14 -21-27-October 4
Cost: $179
Phase 2: Thursdays @ 9pm EST - November 9-16-30-December 7
Cost: $179 
Special price for both Phases: $300

please note: if these dates/times are inconvenient for you, contact Laurie to arrange a coaching telegroup for you and your colleagues/friends.

To Register: Go to www.teleclassinternational.com 

For more information, contact Laurie Geary @ (617)494-1422 or email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com 
or see her website @www.ingearcoaching.com

Local WORKSHOPS:

BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
Monday, September 18  - also, Monday, November 13, 2000 - 6:30-9:30 p.m.
also, Thursday, January 18, 2001
and
*Middlesex Community College
Saturday, September 23rd from 9-4 pm
and
*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, September 27th from 9-3 pm

TEAM-BUILDING:
*Thompson Island Outward Bound Education Center
August 2...September 6th and 16th
and
*The Warren Conference Center...Northeastern University
August 30 & 31st.

RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 4th from 9-3 pm
also
*BCAE - Monday, October 16  from 6:30-9:30 pm.
and Thursday, January 25, 2001.

BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM with the 8 A+ SYSTEM
North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 11th from 9-3 pm

ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Saturday, October 14th from 9 to 4 pm

TEAM-BUILDING:
*Thompson Island Outward Bound Education Center
September 6th and 16th
and
*The Warren Conference Center of Northeastern University
August 30 & 31st.

GAMES AND INITIATIVES FOR LEARNING
*ICF Conference, Balance Program, Vancouver, BC
October 27, 2000

* RANCHO LA PUERTA SPA, Tecate, Mexico
December 16-22, 2000

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