Issue #72 - March, 9  2001 <<8 A - Advantages of Being Single..and Going Solo>>

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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.

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In this issue:
 1. Welcome!
 2. Reader Feedback
         3. Weekly Article:  <<8 A - Advantages of Being Single...and Going Solo>>
 4. Recommended Books
 *My new workbook -   RISK to GROW!
  <Create the Life You Want through Responsible Risk-Taking
        5. Recommended Tasks
 6. March Teleclasses: <Finding Your Passion> and <Taking Risks to Grow>
        7. Upcoming  local Workshops
        8. Subscription information
 

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3.  WEEKLY ARTICLE:  <<8 A -Advantages of Being Single...and Going Solo>>

 As I was standing in the singles line in Vail, Colorado, I realized there are a lot of advantages to being single,..not having to wait in long lines at crowded ski areas is one of them!  I could move right onto the lift, while others waited endlessly for their lines to move.  The "single situation,"  or being alone, is often considered a condition to avoid; every week there are articles urging marriage...partnership..togetherness.. couple-dom...
There seems to be a pervasive message that Singles are not happy. Yet, being one of the 50% of Singles in the world, I began to reflect on the many advantages of being Single...and  going Solo....that I (and single friends of mine) have experienced.

  <<The 8 A's ....Advantages of Being Single...and Going Solo>>

1.  Skiing:
 Getting right on the ski lift by going into the singles lane at crowded ski areas. You also get to meet
different people each time you ride up in the chair.

2.  Restaurants:
 Not having to wait for a table....I almost always find a seat right at the bar and get served my dinner immediately.

3.  Meeting People:
 When you stand alone at a party or networking event or sit alone at a restaurant, it is much easier for people to approach you or for you to approach them.
A friend of mine decided to go alone to a fancy restaurant in New York City.  Two gentlemen sitting nearby invited her to join them and, shortly thereafter, another friend of theirs walked in and joined them. Thus, she spent the evening with Donald Trump!

4. Dancing:  I love to go dancing and I notice that when I go alone I dance a lot more often!

5. Traveling:
 a. It is much easier to connect with fellow travelers when you are alone, and these people will be doing what you have chosen to do too!  Another advantage is that you can leave them whenever you no longer want to be with them or don't want to go where they want to go.
 b.  When you travel alone you can do what you want to do, when you want to do it, how you want to do it, where you want to do it.  Your choices and decisions are all your own; you have total control of your travel plans.
 c.  You can usually accept the offers to give up your airplane seat on an over-booked flight ...and get a free trip voucher...because you don't have to coordinate your schedule with anyone else...and you can be more spontaneous.

6. Spontaneity:
 When you are single you can decide to do whatever  you want to do whenever you feel like it.   I can decide to go to a movie..or a play..or a restaurant....or take a walk on the beach...or take a nap...at the spur of the moment.   I can do what I want whenever "the spirit moves me."

7. Life is Simpler:
 When you are single you don't have to spend hours trying to find people to do things with you, or trying to coordinate plans with others, or trying to organize and arrange plans. You can just Get Up and Go! You only have yourself to confer with about your plans.

8.  Life is an Adventure:
 When you are single you never know who you are going to meet and what is going to happen next.   I always feel excited about and open to the infinite possibilities that can occur at any moment in my life.  Being Single is Fun and Exciting and always an Adventure!

copyright, all rights reserved, Laurie Geary, March, 2001

Can you tell us other advantages of being single...and going solo...???  I would love to hear from you....your stories and suggestions...thanks!

**and please forgive me for the delay in this week's newsletter...I got caught in a snow storm upon my return to Boston yesterday....and I decided not to give up my seat!
 
 

4. RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

1. <Cutting Loose:Why Women Who End their Marriages Do So Well> by Ashton Applewhite

2. <The Improvised Woman: Single Women ReInventing Single Life> by Marcelle Clements

3. <Be an Outrageous Older Woman - a  R.A.S.P. (Remarkable Aging Smart Person)> by Ruth Jacobs.

4.   <Travel Alone and Love It: A Flight Attendant's Guide to Solo Travel>, by Sharon Wingler
 
 

5. RECOMMENDED TASKS:

1. Send me your stories of the advantages of being single...and going solo....

2. Read one of the books mentioned above.

3. Call or email me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to help you tame your gremlins/
 /reduce your negative self-talk/killer statements.
Voice:617-494-1422;  email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

4. Come to my upcoming teleclasses in March (see below)

5. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter to read
 more articles on taking risks, building self esteem, finding your passion...and much more
 
 

6.  UPCOMING FREE TELECLASSES:

<FINDING YOUR PASSION & PURPOSE> Wednesday, March 14 @ 9pmEST

<RISK TO GROW> Wednesday, March 21 @ 9pmEST

 Register @ www.teleclass.com or www.womensu.com or email me: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
 
 

7. UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:

RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*Boston Center for Adult Education - 6:30-9:30 pm.
Tuesday, April 10, 2001 and Thursday, June 7th,2001

BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM WITH THE 8-A SYSTEM
*North Shore Community College (NSCC)
 Wednesday, April 4, 2001, 9-3pm

ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING: Get Your Needs Met!
Homebased BusinessWomen's Network
Thursday, April 12 @ 7:30 pm
Village Green, Danvers, MA

BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
 Tuesday, April 3, 2001, 6:30-9:30 pm
 and Tuesday, June 5, 2001

MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) Staff Training
Watertown Free Library; Thursday, March 16, 2001
and
Beverly Hospital: Thursday, March 22, 2001
 
 

**Check out my new booklet on experiential activities for trainers: 75 of my favorite activities
learned from years of working as an instructor for Outward Bound Professional Development Programs.
GAMES & INITIATIVES for NETWORKING, ENERGIZING, & TEAM-BUILDING...

 *And, finally! Hot off the Press! My new workbook:
RISK TO GROW! CREATE the LIFE YOU WANT through RESPONSIBLE RISK-TAKING...

Both now available...hard copy ($20) or pdf. file ($15)
Send check to Laurie Geary, 4 Canal Park, PH9, Cambridge, MA 02141; email request to: laurie@ingearcoaching.com or order at my website: www.ingearcoaching.com
 

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