Gear up for Success!
Issue #69 - February, 16 2001 <<Valentine Thoughts!>>
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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.
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In this issue:
1. Welcome
2. Reader Feedback
3. Weekly Article:
<<Valentine Thoughts> and
<Top Ten Ways to Find Mr./Ms.Right>
*<Top Ten Ways to Have
Great Sex>
4. Recommended Tasks
5. Upcoming Teleclasses:
Finding Your Passion/Taking Risks to Grow
6. Coaching Groups on Relationships
7. Upcoming local Workshops
8. Subscription information
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1. WELCOME:
Welcome to <Gear Up for Success!> and a warm welcome to all my new subscribers! I really appreciate your forwarding my newsletter to all your friends and colleagues. Your recommendations help me grow and develop as a coach. Anyone can subscribe by going to my website @ www.ingearcoaching.com. Thank you for your support!
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2. READER FEEDBACK: (on Creating Environments that Grow You: issue #68)
>Although it is better to live and work in harmonious environments,
many of
us face intense job stress from reorganizations and the resulting cutbacks
and confusions. However I have found that by returning to the harmony
within ourselves through meditation or however each of us does this
we can
remain balanced when everything in our environment is out of harmony.
Sometimes being in these difficult environments is what forces us to
assess ourselves, to keep returning to our own inner strengths, and
as
we open to them to grow from these painful experiences>
Ellen Skryness
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3. WEEKLY ARTICLE: <VALENTINE THOUGHTS>
This week seemed to be consumed
with much talk and print about Valentine's Day; this really seemed to be
Valentine's Week. Our local paper had two or three articles on topics
related to Valentine's; I received numerous e-newsletters; even Newsweek
had an article where they stated: <as the world endures another Valentine's
Day, 80 million American singles require comfort in the face of the annual
assault on their self esteem> However, people in committed relationships
can also feel <assaulted on their self esteem> if their intimate connection
is not what they want it to be. Valentine's Day certainly seems to
focus our attention on our intimate relationships or lack thereof; and
thus we can decide if we want to take actions to create better relationships.
I met my (ex) husband on
a blind date on Valentine's Day, so the day has always had special meaning
for me. Now, as one of the 80 million singles, I realize I do want
to find, again, that special person in my life: my soul mate...companion...friend...significant
other..life partner. Yet I don't see it as an <assault on my self
esteem> that I haven't found him; and I know I will be fine if I continue
to live my independent, exciting life. I like to think of Valentine's
day as a time to reflect upon all my connections with all the people in
my life...and to cherish my connections with friends and family.
And it's a time to remember to tell them how much I care about them...with
cards or phone calls or email.
I also want to cherish my
connection with myself, knowing that I can be my own Valentine! Someone
said in a e-newsletter: Romance Yourself! (Romance=loving attention and
affection)
So, what did I do to romance
myself on Valentine's Day? I bought myself flowers - yellow roses,
my favorite; I got a massage; I spent time with people I love; I sent out
cards; I treated myself to a special dinner with friends; I wrote
in my journal all the things I love about myself and I acknowledged myself
for all I have done. Relationship coach, Rinatta Paries, suggested
that we send Valentine's cards to ourself as if a wonderful, caring, loving
partner is writing to us. (see more of her suggestions below).
And why not celebrate Valentine's
Day every day? Love ourself first...then love others...and take action
to manifest this love regularly!
If you want to take action
to find that significant other, here are some suggestions that came out
of a teleclass I led awhile ago on <Finding Mr./Ms. Right>
<TOP TEN WAYS TO FIND MR./MS. RIGHT>
1. Use the Internet - write a personal ad, join a chat room.
<http://www.match.com/>http://www.match.com
www.personals.yahoo.com
http://www.matchmaker.com
www.love.msn.com
<http://www.classifieds2000.com/>http://www.americansingles.com
www.friendfinder.com
http://www.jdate.com
www.love.aol.com
<http://www.aol.com/>http://www.kiss.com
www.oneandonly.com
http://www.thirdage.com
www.catholicsingles.com
2. Personal Ads..in newspapers, magazines, dating pages...
3. Dating Clubs: invest in their services..
eg. Great Expectations,
the Post Club, the Right Stuff, Successful Singles, Lunch Dates...
4. Community Programs: Check local community colleges, adult education
centers for programs for
singles (or not) such as wine tastings, group outings,
cultural activities, workshops/courses
on topics related to being single or
just on subjects of interest
to you.
5. Singles Activities: Check local papers for singles activities: dances,
special interest
groups, weekly events/lectures;
organize parties and tell your
friends to bring another
single friend..
6. Do What You Love...Get involved in activities you love to do, like
dancing,
going to the gym, to church,
play tennis, go hiking or skiing or windsurfing;
go to cultural events.......Be
visible and approachable; initiate conversations.
eg. check out AMC (Appalachian
Mountain Club), the Sierra Club, ski clubs
Dancing - check out www.havetodance.com
for lists of all the dances in the Boston area.
Travel -(preferably alone..
or with other single frinds], stay in hostels/B&B's
or join organized travel/adventure
groups.
Check out community centers
for classes on how to travel alone..
7. Referrals: Tell Everyone! Tell all your friends and colleagues
that you are looking for Mr./Ms. Right;
ask them to think about
connecting you up with someone they know who they think
you would like.
8. Become Irresistibly Attractive - Build your personal foundation,
get your
needs met, clarify your
values..become the person you would want
to date! For more
information on this process; read <The Portable Coach> by Thomas Leonard;
or check out www.theportable
coach or www.attractionu.com
9. Take teleclasses -Check out <http://www.teleclass.com/>www.teleclass.<http://www.teleclass.com/>com
or www.teleinternational.com or www.womensu.com or
www.teleclass4U.com
for lots of free (and fee) classes on relationships
and finding your soulmate!
10. Hire a Coach - to support you in your quest to find your soulmate.
Check out www.coachfederation.org
or coachu.com for
listings of coaches and
information on how to choose the right coach for you .
or check out www.whatittakes.com
for Rinatta Paries, relationship coach:
also see www.lifepartnerquest.com
***For another great Top Ten list: TOP TEN WAYS TO HAVE GREAT SEX!
go to www.philiphumbert.com/articles/10greatsex.html
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4. RECOMMENDED TASKS:
1. Be your own Valentine! Everyday...Take action steps to validate, acknowledge, romance and love yourself.
2. Call or email me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session
to support you in your relationship needs: finding Mr/Ms. Right or perfecting
your current connections.
Voice:617-494-1422; email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
3. *A great idea from relationship coach, Rinatta Paries:
Instead of spending Valentine's day (or other lonely days) being sad
about not having a relationship, do something powerful for your relationship
future. This exercise will allow you to experience true, healthy love.
If your history is strewn with broken relationships, you have seldom--if
ever--experienced true, healthy love. Experiencing it will give you the
ability to recognize someone capable of it, and will give you the power
to attract it.
1. Go to Hallmark or some other fancy card store.
2. Buy a few very nice cards, the kind you would love to get from an
intimate partner.
3. Go home, take out the cards and a nice pen, and start writing Valentine's
messages to yourself. The key is to write as if a wonderful, caring, generous
relationship partner is writing to you. Although you don't have such a
partner right now, I'm sure you know just what you'd like to hear. Write
exactly that. Write what you most want to hear from someone who loves you.
Go overboard with compliments and praise and words of love.
4. Seal the cards and put your name on the envelope. Maybe even draw
something on the envelope.
5. Put the cards in different places around the house to be found and
opened on Valentine's Day(or any other day!)
6. When you open the cards on (Valentine's) Day, do not discount what
you've written to yourself. It may not be from a current lover; however,
it is from someone who loves you--YOU.
The more you allow yourself to feel love, even self-love, the more
likely you are to attract true love into your life.
***for lots more on finding or improving your relationships, go to
Rinatta's website: www.whatittakes.com...it is absolutely fabulous!
4. Come to my upcoming teleclasses in March on <Finding your Passion>
or <Taking Risks for Personal Growth>
Register @www.teleclass.com or www.womensu.som or email me: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
or join a coaching group with relationship coach, Rinatta Paries, on
building your relationships (see below)
5. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter
to read
more articles on taking risks, building self esteem, finding
your passion...and much more
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5. UPCOMING Free TELECLASSES:
<FINDING YOUR PASSION & PURPOSE> Wednesday, March 14 @ 9pm
<RISK TO GROW> Wednesday, March 21 @ 9pm
Register @ www.teleclass.com or email me: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
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6. COACHING GROUPS: New relationship classes - Become a love magnet!
with Rinatta Paries, Relationship
Coach
To enroll for any class: go to www.WhatItTakes.com and look in
Relationship Classes section,
or email Coach@WhatItTakes.com or call 888-215-6033
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Love Magnet S101 for single women
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* Starts Friday, 3/9/01 @ 2 pm PST / 5 pm EST
* This is a 3-month, twice-a-month class, meeting for 90 minutes each
time on a teleconference phone bridge.
* Class size is limited to 8 women and the cost is $125 a month or
$360 total.
* Description: Tired of being single? Here is a powerful way to learn
to attract your ideal mate, your Mr. Right. Based on the Love Magnet Quiz,
this class will have you clear away roadblocks that are preventing you
from attracting your true love.
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Accelerated Love Magnet S101 for single women
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* Starts Thursday, 3/8/01 @ 3 pm PST / 6 pm EST
* This is a 2-month, three-times-a-month class, meeting for 90 minutes
* Class size is limited to 8 women and the cost is $185 a month or
$360 total.
* Description: Same as above, but we'll work to clear away your roadblocks
even faster.
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Love Magnet R101 for women in a relationship
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* Starts Friday, 3/9/01 @ 4 pm PST / 7 pm EST
* This is a 3-month, twice-a-month class, meeting for 90 minutes
* Class size is limited to 8 women and the cost is $125 a month or
$360 total.
* Description: How's your relationship going? Want more love from your
partner but don't know how to get it? You can make a difference in your
relationship. Enroll in this class and learn how to make your relationship
into what you have always wanted it to be.
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Accelerated Love Magnet S101 for women in relationship
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* Starts Thursday, 3/8/01 @ 3 pm PST / 6 pm EST
* This is a 2-month, three-times-a-month class, meeting for 90 minutes
* Class size is limited to 8 women and the cost is $185 a month or
$360 total.
* Description: Same as above, except you'll get the love you want even
faster.
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6. UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:
ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
...Learn the 28 Principles of Attraction...
*Middlesex Community College -
Saturday, February 24th, 9 to 4 pm
RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*Boston Center for Adult Education - 6:30-9:30 pm.
Tuesday, April 10, 2001 and Thursday, June 7th,2001
BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM WITH THE 8-A SYSTEM
*NSCC: Wednesday, April 4, 2001, 9-3pm
BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
Tuesday, April 3, 2001, 6:30-9:30 pm
and Tuesday, June 5, 2001
also
*NSCC: Wednesday, February 28th, 9-3 p.m.
MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) Staff Training
Watertown Free Library; Thursday, March 16, 2001
and
Beverly Hospital: Thursday, March 22, 2001
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Upcoming WORKSHOPS by Ellen Skryness, Director
Corporate & Community Education at North Shore Community College
Beverly, MA....978-236-1206
<Increasing Your Energy/Meditation>
March 27 and April 3 at the Cummings Center, NSCC...also
<Stress Management: Beginning a Daily Practice> 7-9pm and
<Meditation & Relaxation Techniques> on May 2 and May 9, 5-7pm
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75 of my favorite activities
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Send check to Laurie Geary, 4 Canal Park, PH9, Cambridge, MA 02141;
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and look for my upcoming workbook on <Risk to Grow>
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