Issue #67 - February, 2  2001 <<Make Mistakes...and Learn!>>

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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC.
Coaching you to get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting
unstuck, finding balance, accelerating your growth, and mapping
the best route to your chosen destination: a life filled with
passion and purpose.

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 1. Reader Feedback
 2. Quotes on Mistakes
         3. Topic:  <Make Mistakes....and Learn>>
 4. A Poem:<Keep Going>
         5. Recommended Tasks
 6. Recommended Books
         7. Upcoming Teleclasses and local Workshops
         8. Subscription information

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Reader Feedback:

<Just read your recent newsletter( #66 - on Finding Passion) It continues to
be so good. I really needed to read the first 2
stories this week; they were very timely. I plan to
use the coral reef metaphor as a continuing guidepoint
for my own life. Thanks!>
Jane Kalagher, Business & Personal Coach
 

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Quotes:

<The only man who never makes a mistake is the one who never does anything>
Theodore Roosevelt

authors unknown:
<Every misteak is an opportunity to increase competence>

<Do you think you are a mistake....just because you made one?>

<The attitude around mistakes needs to be that a mistake is simply a breakdown on the path to accomplishment rather than something that represents a personal failure>

F A I L U R E =
F orging
A head
I 'll
L earn
U nderstand
R e-align
E xcel

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<<Make Mistakes ....and Learn>>     ***all rights reserved, Laurie Geary, February, 2001

   Being able to make mistakes is fundamental to building high self esteem; if you are trying to find your passion you must have the courage to take risks; you can't take risks without making mistakes.   Risking involves moving out of our comfort zone into the unknown. Being in the unknown means trying something new; when we try something new we can't predict the outcome.  Mistakes are part of everyone's life.  All learning comes from making mistakes: we try something and if it doesn't work we then make corrections: mistakes are simply mis  takes.  Automatic pilot in airplanes sets a course.  When the plane is off-course it simply corrects back on-course. Mistakes are like that for us: mistakes tell us we are off-course so we can learn what is on-course.  We need to see mistakes are learning opportunities, not reasons to get discouraged and give up.  We need to see mistakes as stepping stones to success!
 Yet, most of us fear making mistakes; it even seems we fear making mistakes much more the older we get.  We avoid taking risks because of our fear of making mistakes; we can become frozen in action, paralyzed, afraid to do or try anything.  What we need is an attitude adjustment: we need to see....
Why It's Great to Make Mistakes:

*You learn!  The bigger the mistake, the more you learn.  You learn new skills, get new information, gain greater awareness, insights, and understanding.
*You discover your resilience; you learn what you are capable of.
*You can grow by accepting responsibility for your mistakes..and not blaming others.
*You build your risk muscle as you risk and grow through making mistakes.
*You no longer have to be perfect; you can relax and enjoy the learning process.
*You have increased freedom: you are not stifled by the fear of making mistakes.
*Your perspective changes:  you see a mistake as simply a mis - take that tells you when you are off-course so you can correct to on-course.
*You find out who your friends are - people who accept you, even respect you, for your imperfect self who makes mistakes.
*You can redefine yourself - you can alter your self identity as someone who learns and grows through making mistakes.
*You build your self esteem as you learn from your mistakes.
*You recognize, and accept, your limitations as you learn more about yourself by making mistakes.
*You align yourself with many famous people who learned...and became successful...through learning from mistakes. They didn't let making mistakes stop them from their goals!
  some <Famous Failures>...
-Woody Allen: flunked motion picture production at New York University
-The Beatles: turned down by Decca Recording Company in 1962 for having a "bad sound."
-Buddy Holly: fired from Decca label in 1956 as "the biggest no-talent every worked with."
-Elvis Presley: fired by Grand Ole Opry in 1954; told to "go back to truck drivin'"
-Louis L'Amour: received 350 rejections before he made his first sale
-Thomas Edison: tried 2,000 experiments before he invented the light bulb
-Marilyn Monroe: told by Blue Book Modeling Agency, in 1944, to give up modeling.
-Abraham Lincoln: failed twice in business, defeated 7 times in politics, before elected president in 1860.
-Walt Disney: fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas; he went bankrupt several times
-Henry Ford: failed and went broke 5 times before he finally succeeded.
-Babe Ruth: famous for setting the home run record, also holds the record for strikeouts.
-Robert Frost: rejected by the Atlantic Monthly for his poems because they were "too vigorous."
-Sylvester Stallone: rejected 19 times for his screenplay; he decided to produce "Rocky" himself!

*You too can become a role model for others and support them in making mistakes to learn and grow.

So, make mistakes to learn and grow! make mistakes to build your risk muscle; make mistakes to be free; make mistakes to build your self esteem; make mistakes to succeed!

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A Poem: Keep Going...

<When things go wrong, as they sometimes will;
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill;
When the funds are low and the debts are high;
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh;
When care is pressing you down a bit;
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a fellow turns about
when he might have won, had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow;
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
it seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
when he might have captured the victor's cup;
and he learned too late when the night came down
how close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are;
it may be near when it seems afar.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit.
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit>.
author unknown

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Recommended Tasks:

1. Make 5 mistakes today! Identify your learnings; be proud of your actions!

2.  Call or email me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to support you in taking risks and learning from your mistakes!  Voice:617-494-1422;  email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

3. . Come to my new teleclass to discuss Finding your Passion!  Wednesday, February 7th @ 9pm EST.  Register @www.teleclass.com or www.womensu.som  or email me: laurie@ingearcoaching.com

4. Read one of the books mentioned below..or read biographies of <famous failures>
 
5. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter to read
 more articles on taking risks, as well as articles on building self esteem, becoming assertive...and much more
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Recommended Reading:

<Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway> by Susan Jeffers

<Risking> by David Viscott
If you cannot risk, you cannot grow.
If you cannot grow, you cannot become your best.
If you cannot become your best, you cannot be happy.
If you cannot be happy, what else matters?

<Risk to Win: A Woman's Guide to Success> by Jeannette Scollard

<Risk-Taking: The Path to Personal Growth...a workbook> by Joseph Ilardo

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**Check out my new booklet on experiential activities for trainers: 75 of my favorite activities
learned from years of working as an instructor for Outward Bound Professional Development Programs.
GAMES & INITIATIVES for NETWORKING, ENERGIZING, & TEAM-BUILDING...now available...hard copy ($20) or pdf. file ($15)
Send check to Laurie Geary, 4 Canal Park, PH9, Cambridge, MA 02141;  email request to: laurie@ingearcoaching.com or order at my website: www.ingearcoaching.com

and look for my upcoming workbook on <Risk to Grow>

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UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS:

BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
 Tuesday, April 3, 2001, 6:30-9:30 pm
 and Tuesday, June 5, 2001
also
*NSCC, Wednesday, February 28th, 9-3 p.m.

RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*BCAE -6:30-9:30 pm.-
Tuesday, April 10, 2001 and Thursday, June 7th,2001
also
*NSCC: Wednesday, February 21, 2001, 9-3pm

BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM WITH THE 8-A SYSTEM
*NSCC: Wednesday, April 4, 2001, 9-3pm

ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Saturday, February 24th from 9 to 4 pm

Boston College/Brown University Alumni Clubs: Career Networking Night
CREATING BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE
Thursday, February 8, 2001

MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) Staff Training
Watertown Free Library; Thursday, March 16, 2001
and
Beverly Hospital: Thursday, March 22, 2001

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