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Issue #44 - August 7, 2000 <<more on BUILDING SELF ESTEEM>>
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brought to you by Laurie Riddell Geary, M.Ed., PCC. Coaching you to
get your life IN GEAR by making shifts, getting unstuck, finding balance,
accelerating your growth, and mapping the best route to your chosen destination:
a life filled with passion and purpose.
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Table of Contents:
1. Reader FEEDBACK
2. Topic: <<More on
BUILDING SELF ESTEEM >>
A Coaching Telegroup on Building Your Self Esteem with the 8-A System
3. Recommended TASKS
4. Recommend READING
5. Special ANNOUNCEMENT
- Confidence Camp for Women
6 Upcoming Local WORKSHOPS
7. SUBSCRIPTION information
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Reader FEEDBACK:
<Hello Laurie,
Thank you for doing all that you have done. Your letters have inspired
me to make a lot of changes in my life. You are truly wonderful. Keep up
all that you are doing!!!
Thanking you>
Tammy Howell
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Topic: <More on BUILDING SELF ESTEEM>
Self Esteem = How I Esteem my Self! Self Esteem is my reputation with myself!
"Self Esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as competent to
copy with the basic challenges of life...and to feel worthy of happiness.
Self esteem involves: *appreciating my own worth and importance;
*having the character to be accountable for myself;
*acting responsibly towards others."
Official definition of Self Esteem by the California Task Force to
Promote Self Esteem and Personal and Social Responsibility (1990)
Self esteem is the experience that we are appropriate to life and to
the requirements of life. It involves:
*confidence in our ability to think and cope with life's basic challenges;
*confidence in our right to be happy, feel worth, deserving, entitled to
assert our needs and wants and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.
Definition Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden from <The Six Pillars
of Self Esteem>
Self Esteem is knowing "IALAC" (I am Lovable and Capable); Sid Simon.
How is your self esteem?
Do you esteem your Self? How has your esteem developed over your
lifetime? How is it developing now?
Do you believe that you can affect your self esteem now and continue
to build it?
Our level of self-esteem affects everything we think, say, or
do:
*it affects how others see
and treat us;
*it affects the choices
we make;
*it affects our ability
to give and receive love:
*it increases our chances
for happiness, well-being, and effective functioning:
*it helps us cope with life's
disappointments/stressors
Therefore it seems essential that we focus daily on ways to strengthen
and build our self esteem.
A mature adult with high
self esteem has:
*an ability to love and
form close relationships;
*an ability to find and
sustain satisfying work;
*an ability to play and
enjoy life;
*an ability to accept responsibility;
*an ability to recognize
and respect the rights of others;
*an ability to empathize
with others;
*an ability to feel capable,
significant, worthy, lovable, successful.
"By self esteem we refer to the evaluation which the individual makes and maintains with regard to himself; it expresses an attitude of approval or disapproval." (Stanley Coopersmith)
Did you know that numerous studies have shown that two out of three people have low self esteem? that only 35% of people feel confident. Why is that? Do we settle for less? Do we not expect that we can have a happier life?
On a scale of 1 to 100 what self esteem score would you give yourself?
What number would you like your score to be? What is the gap? Are you doing
what you need to do to raise your level of self esteem?
"our self-feeling in this world depends entirely on what we back ourselves
to be & do; it is determined by the ratio of our actualities to our
supposed potentialities..." (William James, 1890)
Many psychologists have developed
methods for helping us take action to build our confidence: Nathaniel Branden
created the Six Pillars of Self Esteem; Jack Canfield created the Ten Steps
to Success; Brian Tracy created the Six Keys to Success.
I have recently developed the Eight A's of Self Esteem (see newsletter
issue #22). All of us make it clear that there are specific actions
we can take to build our self esteem. Building our self esteem is
a conscious, purposeful process. We can, and must, take charge of
our life and create the happy life we want now..
Self esteem develops over our lifetime; it is not a condition that was settled at age 3 or by age 6, as some psychologists claim. One's self esteem is never finally settled; it is ever evolving as we grow and change throughout our life.
There are many ways to continue to build your self esteem; we each have to find what works best for us. Reading self-help books, listening to motivational tapes or motivational speakers, attending workshops, courses or retreats, working with a coach or a counselor, setting and achieving goals...are some of the many avenues for growth.
This fall I am offering a
weekly group coaching teleclass to focus on <Building Your Self Esteem
through the Awesome 8-A System>
.Each session will focus on one of the 8 A's of Self Esteem Development*...a
unique, inspiring and practical process for positive change.
Topics to focus on:
*Developing your A+ Attributes to Attract what you want in your life.
*Becoming more Aware of your needs and wants.
*Being Accountable for your Actions
*Acknowledging and Accepting yourself and others using skills that
work miracles.
*Becoming more Assertive: Asking for what you want; Avoiding what you
don't want;
Act now! Take Actions to Accelerate your growth...move forward faster
in your self esteem development and learn how to
Activate the 8 A's of Building Your Self Esteem.
*an e-Workbook on the 8-A System for Building Self Esteem provided.
*e-Handouts provided per session to supplement self esteem topics
*The telegroup format provides affordable coaching for the client who
chooses group coaching over individual coaching.
Telegroup limited to 8 participants.
Session Dates:
Free Introductory sessions: Thursday, Sept. 7 @ 9pm EST also Thursday,
November 2 @ 9pm EST
Take a self esteem assessment; get an overview of the 8 A's; determine
if the telegroup will support you in building your self esteem.
Phase 1: Thursdays @ 9pm EST - Sept 14 -21-27-October 4
Cost: $179
Phase 2: Thursdays @ 9pm EST - November 9-16-30-December 7
Cost: $179
Cost for both Phases: $300
please note: if these dates/times are inconvenient for you, contact Laurie to arrange a coaching telegroup for you and your colleagues/friends.
To Register: Go to www.teleclassinternational.com
For more information, contact Laurie Geary @ (617)494-1422 or email:
laurie@ingearcoaching.com
or see her website @www.ingearcoaching.com
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TASKS =
1. Register for the coaching telegroup and build your self esteem with the 8-A System
2. Read one of the books or listen to one of the tape sets mentioned below.
3. Go to my Website www.ingearcoaching.com for back issues of my newsletter related to building self esteem.
4. Call me for a complimentary half-hour COACHING session to support
you in building your self esteem...
Voice:617-494-1422; email: laurie@ingearcoaching.com
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Recommended READING:
THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF ESTEEM, by Nathaniel Branden
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/ gearupforsuccela
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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF ACHIEVEMENT, by Brian Tracy
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/8175150311/gearupforsuccela
HOW TO BUILD HIGH SELF ESTEEM, by Jack Canfield
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN/ gearupforsuccela
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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: - a retreat for building self esteem!
*CONFIDENCE CAMP: Women Getting Stronger from the Inside Out
Date: September 8-10, 2000
Description:
Today's women are smart, ambitious, well-educated and have tremendous
skills, talent and experience. Even so, there are times when our inner
voices undermine our confidence, testing our resolve. Deep inside, we know
we are competent, but self-doubt and fears can erode self-confidence and
sabotage even the most capable woman. In this workshop, women will explore
the inner obstacles that are getting in the way of living their dreams.
The goal is to move beyond awareness to change mind sets and re-program
old patterns.
To accomplish this, we're going back to camp to remember how strong and capable we are!We are going to rediscover that self-assured kid we were long ago and go back out into the world reconnected to our authentic and confident self. Our activities will include a blend of reflective inner exercises and experiential outdoor activities to help create an environment where women will be gently challenged to look at self-defeating behaviors and beliefs and move beyond them. We honor that each participant decides their level of participation, yet we will encourage you to exceed your perceived limits.
Location: Fox Hall, Lake Willoughby, Vermont, just a few hours from Boston. A lovely old inn and beautiful barn with fieldstone fireplace for workshops.
Cost: The cost of this pilot program is $299 and includes everything: accomodations at Fox Hall, food, the progam materials and other incidental costs. Limited to 15 participants.
Program goals:
- Have a better understanding of our confidence level and its impact
on our lives
- Develop skills and have experiences that strengthen our level of
confidence
- Leave with a shift in beliefs, attitudes and behaviors about confidence
and go out into the world using these new tools
- Have fun, meet interesting women, grow, and be a kid for a couple
of days
Facilitators:
Lois Sekerak Hogan and Jean Corson Wolff. As original members of the
"Feral Femmes," an informal group of women who get together to hike, howl
and laugh, Lois and Jean have long believed that women thrive in an environment
of cameraderie and fun. Their vision for Confidence Camp is to create innovative
learning opportunities that help women discover their innate leadership
and voice and unleash the power of their fully authentic selves.
For more information or to register, contact:
Lois Sekerak Hogan, Ph.D.
Crane Neck House
74 Main Street
West Newbury, Massachusetts 01985
Phone: 978-363-2000
lshogan@tiac.net
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<UPCOMING LOCAL WORKSHOPS>:
BE A PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL COACH
*Boston Center for Adult Education
Monday, September 18 - also, Monday, November 13.
and
*Middlesex Community College
Saturday, September 23rd from 9-4 pm
and
*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, September 27th from 9-3 pm
TEAM-BUILDING:
*Thompson Island Outward Bound Education Center
August 2...September 6th and 16th
and
*The Warren Conference Center...Northeastern University
August 30 & 31st.
RISK-TAKING: THE PATH to PERSONAL GROWTH
*North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 4th from 9-3 pm
also
*BCAE - Monday, October 16 from 6:30-9:30 pm.
BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM with the 8 A+ SYSTEM
North Shore Community College
Wednesday, October 11th from 9-3 pm
ATTRACTING WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
*Middlesex Community College - Saturday, October 14th from 9 to 4 pm
TEAM-BUILDING:
*Thompson Island Outward Bound Education Center
August 14...September 6th and 16th
and
*The Warren Conference Center of Northeastern University
August 30 & 31st.
Games and Initiatives for Learning
*ICF Conference, Balance Program, Vancouver, BC
October 27, 2000
* RANCHO LA PUERTA SPA, Tecate, Mexico
December 16-22, 2000
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